October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month~ Both causes so important!
This week we will focus on both, plus other causes that are dear to the heart of our moms!
The following article was written and submitted anonymously. We would like to extend our thanks to the author for sending us such a personal article. It is our hope that it will touch the lives of others and give courage to those who need it.
Millions of women everyday are affected by domestic violence. Women and even young teenage girls are mentally, physically, and sexually abused everyday. Not by strangers, but by people who are near and close to them: their spouses and boyfriends.
I don't know facts, I don't know the specifics, but I do know it can be scary, it can be horrible, and it can be confusing. You feel deep love for a man and he uses you to take out his aggression, his aggravation, his dislike for the world around him. You can do nothing right, everything is wrong. You can't care for your children, you can't keep a clean house, you can't do or be what he wants you to be. Yet in the next moment you are beautiful, you are sexy, you are wonderful, you are the answer to his prayers, and he will never do it again. The only thing is, HE is WRONG, not you. Women do not realize they are a victim, not the cause.
You asked why would a woman stay? I ask how easy is it for them to leave? It isn't. They are afraid of being hurt worse, being killed, their children being hurt. They feel it is truly all their fault. They feel they are worthless, no one else would want them. These things are filled in their heads by the men who promised to love, honor, and cherish them.
I have been down that road. I have seen what it can do.. I have also seen what can happen when someone else calls for help. Someone called for me. Now I live a happier life with my husband. He got help through the court system. Not all men can or will change.
I guess what I am saying in this article is help a woman. If you even suspect that she is being abused or she has told you, call the police. Call your local center for domestic violence. She need not know who called. Help her. Chances are she can't help herself. Chances are her children, her sons, see this and think it is normal, that this is the way a man treats a woman. Her daughters will see this and think this is how they should be treated.
Also it isn't only women who are abused. There are men. Their numbers are smaller, but still it is not right in any case. Help someone today. Help yourself. There are people out there willing to help you hide, help you put your abuser behind bars, help you get YOU back.
Call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Or visit their website at www.ndvh.org They have the facts, they have the specifics, and they are scary.
Today another woman died and not on a foreign field and not with a rifle strapped to her back, and not with a large defense of tanks rumbling and rolling behind her. She died without CNN covering her war. She died without talk of intelligent bombs and strategic targets The target was simply her face, her back her pregnant belly. The target was her precious flesh that was once composed like music in her mother's body and sung in the anthem of birth. The target was this life that had lived its own dear wildness, had been loved and not loved, had danced and not danced. A life like yours or mine that had stumbled up from a beginning and had learned to walk and had learned to read. and had learned to sing. Another woman died today. not far from where you live; Just there, next door where the tall light falls across the pavement. Just there, a few steps away where you've often heard shouting, Another woman died today. She was the same girl her mother used to kiss; the same child you dreamed beside in school. The same baby her parents walked in the night with and listened and listened and listened For her cries even while they slept. And someone has confused his rage with this woman's only life. -Carol Geneya Kaplan
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